Seeing two lines or a “pregnant” message on your pregnancy test can be shocking. How can you tell your partner or friends?
For some women, it might be very easy to text their best friends a picture of their pregnancy test; for others, it might be more difficult. Telling a partner may feel even harder.
We’ll share communication tips for all these situations below. In the meantime, visit Alpha Center today to talk in a safe and confidential space. We’re here to help, encourage, and support you during this time.
Communication Tips for Many Relationship Types
Telling Your Partner When in a Relationship
Sharing the news of your pregnancy with your partner can be the most nerve-racking announcement, especially if you feel like there’s a lot at stake. However, trust and honesty are crucial if you truly want to continue in a relationship with your partner.
Plan to tell your partner in a comfortable setting when neither of you feels rushed. Give him time to process the news (maybe an evening) so you can both think clearly when discussing next steps.
If your partner has challenges with anger or you’re worried he might lash out at you, take safety precautions. You may consider telling him about your pregnancy in a public place, over the phone, or with a support person present.
If you are afraid for your safety, you can choose not to tell your partner and contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline to create an exit plan.
Telling Your Partner When You Aren’t Together
Maybe you and your partner broke up before you found out about your pregnancy, or you were never together. It’s up to you whether or not you decide to tell him, but you might want to because he has played a role in your current situation.
You may consider asking him if he’s up for a phone call or coffee. Aim for something that’s low-commitment and doesn’t feel like a date. A public setting is likely best for safety reasons.
Telling him allows him to support you and be aware of the circumstances.
Telling Your Friends When You Don’t Want to
It’s normal to want to isolate when something significant happens in your life, like pregnancy. However, telling your friends (even if you don’t want to) can help you feel less alone and more encouraged.
Tell your friends during a comfortable hangout or when you’re all together. Prepare yourself that they may act surprised, but if they are true friends, they will stay by your side through it all.
Alpha Center Can Help You
Before you break the news, consider verifying your pregnancy with a lab-quality pregnancy test and an ultrasound. You’ll learn important information such as whether your pregnancy is progressing, if it’s in the uterus, how far along you are in your pregnancy, and your estimated due date if you decide to carry to term.
Schedule your no-cost and confidential appointment online today. We’ll ensure you feel equipped to tell your friends and partner about your pregnancy with essential details to move forward.